A lot of women enjoy sex more with a little help from a sex toy for clitoral stimulation, but there can be a cultural stigma against it, as if your partner shouldn't need a sex toy to get you off. In this week's Sex Talk Realness , Cosmopolitan. Man A: Thirty-two. Man B: Twenty-five. Man C: Twenty-six. Man A: Fourteen months.

First, why use sex toys?
Wait, what kind of sex toys are we talking about?
Thanks to our country's subpar sex education and general tendency toward puritanism, our relationship with sex and our ability to talk about it is, you know, fucked. Many of my female friends have avoided asking their partners to use sex toys in bed because they feel embarrassed about it, or like they come across as too kinky. Adding sex toys to your oeuvre only fosters more open, fun sex.
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Plus, past research has found people who use sex toys also have better sexual functioning i. Considering that the majority of women cannot orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone and can reach climax way more reliably with the use of a sex toy, we can see where the worry comes from. According to some sex therapists , the fear of being replaced by vibrators and dildos is apparently a common concern among their male clientele. To get a better sense of how couples are choosing to incorporate sex toys into their relationships, I tapped dating app OkCupid to ask how their users feel about the use of sex toys during partnered sex in general. Using sex toys with my partner has been amazing! There are so many options out there from vibrators to cock rings to other fun toys like handcuffs and feathers.
In fact, you can probably use most of the toys you masturbate with during partnered play, too. That said, having a partner there opens up a lot of new possibilities, too—both in terms of partner-specific toys and techniques that require an extra pair of hands. Either way, sex toys can be a strong addition to any sex life if all parties are curious. Below, find everything you need to know about how to use sex toys with a partner, from choosing the right equipment to getting creative. Firstly and most obviously And with that in mind, you can use anything you want on the playground, including toys. Beyond that, though, plenty of people—especially people with vaginas—require certain types of stimulation in order to have an orgasm. Specifically, most people with vaginas require at least some clitoral stimulation to get off, according to the Mayo Clinic. So the question is, why not use toys?